I want to address an issue I’ve discussed a lot with my mum lately and that’s the language barrier. Not so much between Simon and myself but between Simon and the rest of my family (mainly my parents) who are not as confident in speaking English as I am. I haven’t thought about it as a big issue before but after speaking to mum I understand that it’s a bigger issue than I thought it to be.
I see my mum as being fairly good at English and I thought she could keep up in conversations we have in English when we all get together, but she has now expressed that she doesn’t feel confident speaking and that she often stop listening when we start speaking English at the dinner table for example. I don’t mind helping to translate but I didn’t realise that it was needed. I can understand the frustration she’s feeling but the same goes for Simon when my family has conversations in Swedish so I feel stuck in the middle, trying to involve everyone and make them feel comfortable.
My mum compares having conversations with Simon with talking to my brother’s fiancee or my sister’s boyfriend (yes Emma, I call him your boyfriend even though you claim you’re just dating). Of course it’s easier in Swedish and there is a different depth in the conversation she can have in Swedish compared to the ones she feels comfortable having in English and it creates a barrier and a distance.
Does anyone else recognise this as a problem with your non Swedish partner (or being the non Swedish partner even) and the rest of your family?family, move to Sweden